We’re wired to attach more weight to negative information about someone than we do to positive info. That’s why you can be having a great conversation with someone, and then all of a sudden you change your mind about them when they tell you in all seriousness that they were captured by a UFO. It doesn’t matter that for the past half hour the person was being smart and witty... now you mentally stamp their file with big bold red letters that say “WEIRDO”. So, since one wrong move can shoot down 100 good ones, it’s crucial to avoid negative behaviors that are characteristic of low status males, or betas, if you don't want women to treat you like crap and lead you on. These beta characteristics to avoid are:
1) Seeking approval by ending sentences with, “isn’t it” or “right”? These questions tacked onto the end of sentences make you sound weak willed, particularly if your vocal pitch rises. Right?
2) Trying to dominate. Instead, just do it. Have a stronger psychological reality and mindset than anyone else. Assume people are there to follow you, because you are the shit. Know, as an article of faith, that you can ask people politely to do what you want them to do, rather than bossing them around.
3) Being belligerent, either with women or with other men. The alpha male is able to stay calm under pressure and walk away when he needs to. Starting a fight is a sign that you’re a man with low status. It also goes without saying that fighting in order to gain the affections of a woman is the ultimate form of approval seeking, which lowers your attractiveness. With that said, however, if some guy violates your boundaries and starts shit with you (like let's say you get bullied), there are occasions when you must stand up for yourself.
4) Following the other person’s agenda and talking about what they want to discuss, even if you find it boring. The alpha male only talks about what he wants to. Watch any alpha male in action (e.g., CEOs and politicians) and you will observe this phnomenon. When an alpha male is bored, he doesn’t hide his disinterest. So don’t give people your attention until they’ve earned it.
5) Trying to one-up people and prove that you’re smarter than the person you’re talking to. When you look at leaders in corporate boardrooms or governor’s mansions, you find that the best leaders are secure enough in themselves that they can listen to those who are more expert than they are. An old CEO truism is that you don’t have to be smart, you just have to hire smart people.
6) Checking out every pretty girl you see. A man who’s getting laid left and right doesn’t have time for this, so you shouldn’t, either. As you stop being impressed by the hot bodies around you, watch the difference in reactions that you get from women. Watch how they start checking you out and wanting to prove themselves to you.